Another trick is to pretend it's a job you're trying to get, not a date, since women tend to find it easier to really sell themselves in a work setting.Mistake #2: You Come Off as a Clone Everyone knows you are "nice, smart, fun, and sweet," but there are thousands of other single girls online saying the same damn thing about themselves. The snag-him secret: The best profiles tell an original story.Mistake #1: You Don't Self-Promote You might be hesitant to really play up your assets because you worry it will make you seem cocky or self-involved.
Relatedly: Select photos where you can actually see what you look like.
Like a recipe for a great dish, it’s about having a combination of ingredients working in your favour: a couple of well-lit, authentic pictures of yourself, combined with a pinch of wit, a decent helping of honesty, and generous servings of thoughtfulness, individuality, and attention to detail.
In this article, we’re going to introduce you to a few different dating profiles that each contain varying quantities of the above elements.
I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.
So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.
Combining the two in an online dating scenario can complicate the delicate dance even further. Maybe Boy and Girl meet—or maybe they don’t, and if they do, do Boy and Girl live up to their profiles and live happily ever after?