"But Anna," you ask, "How can I sleep when there are so many mistakes to make?! Skip a few shampoos and just condition, or use dry shampoo! I spent the first five years of my 20s dragging my hungover ass out of bed and feeding a artisanal omelet to my mouth. During the day, we're drinking green juice and going to yoga. By the time I was 24, my hair had the consistency of tree bark. To truly appreciate the good men, you have to road-test the bad ones. Or chasing after someone who is completely disinterested in you. This is how it went: Keep in mind, at this point, she had asked me ZERO questions, knew nothing about me and she was telling ME to try harder.The guy who had kept the conversation going — I needed to try harder. In your early 20s, you’ve got one foot in adulthood, but you are just barely removed from teenage silliness.As you get a little older, you may find yourself trapped between your relative youth and the increased pressure to “settle down.” Meanwhile, the men in your world are growing and changing in ways that might not always match up with what you need or want.
Yet, that 26-year-old with the tight abs still thinks you're hot.Let me give you a little point in the right direction: You are single probably because you don’t have the right attitude about dating.From what I’ve seen in my time being single, a lot of girls in the world think dating is a one-way street where guys need to put in all of the efforts. You wouldn’t believe how many girls on their online dating profile have these ridiculous standards for the men who message them: The majority of the women I’ve seen on dating websites have something like this on their profile.their 30s, and men aren't the only ones guilty of tangling with younger mates for recreational reasons. 30-somethings are too tired for happy hour on Fridays. 30-something guys will make you feel better about your own body.Based on my own experience and on polls of my 30-something single friends, I've pieced together an in-depth analysis of the pros and cons of 20-somethings and 30-somethings. The only clarity I felt was that I was utterly clueless, and that my growing family was profoundly screwed as a result.