British dating etiquette

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In Britain you will find most people are kinder to you if you behave politely, respecting local people and customs. " (but only if you already know about the person's family) - Hospitality, eg "Can I get you something to eat or drink?

You may sometimes upset people by things that you say or do, even if these things seem perfectly normal in your own culture. My name is Mark" - Travel, eg "Did you manage to find here OK? " - The weather, eg "It's a lovely day today, isn't it? " (British people love dogs or cats) - General news, eg "What do you think about the recent floods?

I am not the only American woman that has the problem, as several of my fellow countrywomen complain of the same thing with the lovely men of these shores. I am not aggressive or pushy or shy or any of the stereotypical things that would turn a man off.

Back home a date that stretched on - by the man's own suggestion, not mine - from drinks, to dinner, to after dinner coffee, with conversation throughout - and then possibly even a good-night kiss would mean he was interested in at least getting to know the woman better! It seems that I can engage in good conversation and emails, even telephone conversations prior to the dates ...

“Fine” I said, “I’ll have sex with you, just tell me one thing….what’s my name? Dating can suck, and of course there are times when it feel like it’d be easier to just give up, but don’t let it get you down.

Try and see any dating disasters as just a great story rather than a negative experience.

Unfortunately, unless you’re lucky enough to fall in love with your first match, you’re likely to encounter rejection at one stage.

Do not take this personally, and remember that you’ll probably have turned people down too.

I am 30 years old, well-educated, well spoken, and I am told by both male and female friends that I am good company.It’s been a great night of drinks, dinner, and conversation, but the evening is coming to a close as the bill is finally brought to the table.Questions start to flood your mind: Do I offer to pay?But the trend seems to be that I will let a few days go by, then drop a text or email thanking him for the date - I won't suggest another date myself, as I have been told that is too forward for British men - only to be told "I didn't feel that spark" or something similar. I'm not a supermodel, but I'm also fairly attractive.I am 5'3" tall with long dark hair and a size 12 - just as pretty and about the same size as most women walking around London. That is the only thing that is starting to make sense, which is of course not helping with the confidence issues developing from all of these first-date only experiences.I have had several long term relationships and, if one were to judge the number of contacts made and dates gone on, then I've been rather "successful" with the internet dating.

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