We will fight for our loved ones — even when our partners wish we wouldn't.
I call this my "Mama Bear" instinct, in an effort to make adorable something I'm pretty sure annoys my partner.
It never has been, and it's always been important to us both to be out and open. But being the partner of someone who is part of a minority community that, at best, is enjoying some supposedly newfound "fascination" focus in the media has its own set of challenges.
It’s basing your frame for sexuality on the gender coercively assigned to a person by their doctor at birth, not on that person’s actual identity.Women who date transmen are whatever they identified as before they started dating.Â If a straight women dates a transman then she’s still straight.Â If a bisexual woman dates a transman then she’s still bisexual.Â If a lesbian woman dates a transman then she’s still a lesbian, but her transguy partner and fellow lesbian friends may call her out on why that poses some problems.Same goes for gay men.Â Gay men who date transmen are still GAY.Â The presence of a vagina does not change the fact that transmen are MEN.Â Bisexual men are still bisexual.Â Straight men have the same issues as lesbian women, their sexual identity directly conflicts with our gender identity.Â The couple in question either has to accept that conflict or come up with new labels for themselves (or drop labels entirely).Â Personally, I would not be comfortable dating a man who considered himself straight.Â It would make me feel like I was being seen as a woman.Â Luckily, that’s never been an issue.I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.I would very much like to be able to love more than one person, but my husband is and wants us to remain strictly monogamous. I think my parents would accept my bisexuality, especially since I'm married to a man and therefore not actually dating women, but they're still busy processing the fact that I'm not Christian.In this case, we’re talking about folks who were assigned female.