Chelsea and I have been dating for a year and a half now, and it has been the most exhilarating, wonderful, exciting and special year and a half of my life.I would not trade it for anything, and I would do anything to spend the rest of my life with her.Non-American women, not being raised in a culture of fantasy and entitlement, tend to require only that you be moderately attractive, fairly decent and kind, with a bit of money in the bank and game to go with it—it’s always necessary, you see, to be keep women turned on and not bored.Non-American women are also enjoyable to be around, good for more than sex: you can relax and enjoy their company without having to worry about calculating your every move, lest you slip up and prompt them “not to settle.” And they will respect you from the beginning, as well as be grateful and gracious to you for treating them well.“Their highly codified dating game doesn’t leave much space for magic,” complains . I’ve only included observations that I’ve found frequently repeated in French-language news articles and blogs (though I’ve also heard variants of these repeated by people from various parts of the world who have spent time in America), and the standard TP disclaimers apply; as with all cultural observations, they’re not universal descriptions of behavior, and they’re obviously relative to the culture making the observations.“The American game of seduction is like military strategy, and it makes mincemeat of any innocent, lighthearted European daring to set foot in the land of pragmatic romance.” Dating, French language sources say, is every bit as bad as American TV series have led the French public to believe.. May the advice prove useful to those attempting to date à la américaine, and for Americans — who really ought to discover how other cultures see their romance manqué.But, in my experience, this does not hold true at all.
American girls are painted as delicate princesses that expect men to wait on them hand and foot.The word déïte — as the French phonetically spell it — doesn’t have an exact translation. “I would try to tell [American] guys, ‘I’m French; I don’t date,'” says a French expat in California, interviewed by Madame Figaro, “but it didn’t work.They needed everything to be explicit” — in terms of whether or not an outing was officially a date.The most that any such “advice” can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren’t open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn’t stand a snowflake’s chance in hell of surviving anyway.” However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation. Let’s listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular.If you show feeling before they do, or more feeling than they do; if you lose your cool; if you make a playful joke that offends their touchy nature; if you respond to their texts in much less time than they respond to yours—if you do any of these things (not to mention countless other slips in game, most of them quite stupid and unnatural to have to guard against), then, chances are, the woman will just turn to the next guy in her phone—one of many! For she has endless sexual options, as you do not, and as many non-American women do not want.